I saw this challenge three times today while visiting my blogger friends - Ok God, I hear You. Besides how can it hurt to work on your marriage?Check it out. I dare you.
I know what you mean Goofball, at first I was a little skeptical (as I tend to be). I have decided to take the challenges and if need be adjust them to what works for us. I find it a little one sided (like the whole 'wife needs to be the husband's servant' idea) and in our relationship we are partners, not one over the other. I know one of the challenges in particular bothered me a little (where you talk about 'his' plan for your family), we have a plan, together - not his or mine, but ours. So I decided I will take some ideas with a grain of salt, use the basic beneficial idea. I may not share some of the beliefs that the organizer does, but I believe that it was done with the best intentions and that is what I want to take away from it. We can always use work on our marriages!
Yeah, the 'his plan' thing could rub people the wrong way. For me though, Keith and I hardly talk these days, and it would be nice to know what he's thinking. If he shares with me, then I can say what I think about it, and we can plan together. Make sense?
Totally Stacey! I think that's the idea, however it is worded - is to get both husband and wife talking about goals, dreams, hopes. That's kind of what I mean about adjusting it to what works for us :) taking the basic principle. Goofball, for me I'm not taking this as trying to change who I am as a person (I will still be me) but working on areas where I can improve - especially when you have kids there are things that you let slid in marriage,(it just happens) here is a chance to try to work on those areas :)
wow what an extensive answer you gave me. Thanks :)
The challenge as worded really put me off as I'd not recognise me in such a role at all. It doesn't feel like a partnership. I like your point of view much more. I get what you're saying. Yes each marriage needs work so I'm curious what you'll be posting over the summer :)
lol Goofball, yeah I guess I am one of those people that likes to explain myself so I am understood, clearly - even if it takes 1,000,000 words, lol. Plus there are some things that I am passionate about, there is no way I would want someone to think that I agree with 'gender inequality' in marriage :)
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I find the challenge confusing. How do you 'complete' him...by being his opposite? or to be yourself, the woman he fell in love with?
I know what you mean Goofball, at first I was a little skeptical (as I tend to be). I have decided to take the challenges and if need be adjust them to what works for us. I find it a little one sided (like the whole 'wife needs to be the husband's servant' idea) and in our relationship we are partners, not one over the other. I know one of the challenges in particular bothered me a little (where you talk about 'his' plan for your family), we have a plan, together - not his or mine, but ours. So I decided I will take some ideas with a grain of salt, use the basic beneficial idea. I may not share some of the beliefs that the organizer does, but I believe that it was done with the best intentions and that is what I want to take away from it. We can always use work on our marriages!
Yeah, the 'his plan' thing could rub people the wrong way. For me though, Keith and I hardly talk these days, and it would be nice to know what he's thinking. If he shares with me, then I can say what I think about it, and we can plan together. Make sense?
Totally Stacey! I think that's the idea, however it is worded - is to get both husband and wife talking about goals, dreams, hopes. That's kind of what I mean about adjusting it to what works for us :) taking the basic principle. Goofball, for me I'm not taking this as trying to change who I am as a person (I will still be me) but working on areas where I can improve - especially when you have kids there are things that you let slid in marriage,(it just happens) here is a chance to try to work on those areas :)
Hey Ellen,
wow what an extensive answer you gave me. Thanks :)
The challenge as worded really put me off as I'd not recognise me in such a role at all. It doesn't feel like a partnership.
I like your point of view much more. I get what you're saying. Yes each marriage needs work so I'm curious what you'll be posting over the summer :)
lol Goofball, yeah I guess I am one of those people that likes to explain myself so I am understood, clearly - even if it takes 1,000,000 words, lol. Plus there are some things that I am passionate about, there is no way I would want someone to think that I agree with 'gender inequality' in marriage :)
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