Tuesday, June 08, 2010

Complete Him Challenge

I saw this challenge three times today while visiting my blogger friends - Ok God, I hear You. Besides how can it hurt to work on your marriage?Check it out. I dare you.

6 comments:

Goofball said...

I find the challenge confusing. How do you 'complete' him...by being his opposite? or to be yourself, the woman he fell in love with?

Ellen said...

I know what you mean Goofball, at first I was a little skeptical (as I tend to be). I have decided to take the challenges and if need be adjust them to what works for us. I find it a little one sided (like the whole 'wife needs to be the husband's servant' idea) and in our relationship we are partners, not one over the other. I know one of the challenges in particular bothered me a little (where you talk about 'his' plan for your family), we have a plan, together - not his or mine, but ours. So I decided I will take some ideas with a grain of salt, use the basic beneficial idea. I may not share some of the beliefs that the organizer does, but I believe that it was done with the best intentions and that is what I want to take away from it. We can always use work on our marriages!

Stacey said...

Yeah, the 'his plan' thing could rub people the wrong way. For me though, Keith and I hardly talk these days, and it would be nice to know what he's thinking. If he shares with me, then I can say what I think about it, and we can plan together. Make sense?

Ellen said...

Totally Stacey! I think that's the idea, however it is worded - is to get both husband and wife talking about goals, dreams, hopes. That's kind of what I mean about adjusting it to what works for us :) taking the basic principle. Goofball, for me I'm not taking this as trying to change who I am as a person (I will still be me) but working on areas where I can improve - especially when you have kids there are things that you let slid in marriage,(it just happens) here is a chance to try to work on those areas :)

Goofball said...

Hey Ellen,

wow what an extensive answer you gave me. Thanks :)

The challenge as worded really put me off as I'd not recognise me in such a role at all. It doesn't feel like a partnership.
I like your point of view much more. I get what you're saying. Yes each marriage needs work so I'm curious what you'll be posting over the summer :)

Ellen said...

lol Goofball, yeah I guess I am one of those people that likes to explain myself so I am understood, clearly - even if it takes 1,000,000 words, lol. Plus there are some things that I am passionate about, there is no way I would want someone to think that I agree with 'gender inequality' in marriage :)